You have that big overwhelming question of what if? What if I make the wrong decision? What if I’m not good enough?
You’re constantly questioning yourself and thinking of every single scenario of what can happen. As you been to think and to wonder you start to have that feeling of panic. You feel like you are losing control of everything around you and of yourself. But here is my thing those questions of what if this or that happens or could happen start reminding yourself of the other times were your anxiety, your fear almost stopped you from doing something before and it turned out to be the best decision of your life. If you had let that anxiety win out you would’ve missed out. You would’ve missed out on that cute date with that really cute guy or going to that party where you knew no one but you ended up becoming best friends with your lifelong best friend.
I’m not saying that it will always be easy and yes there will be times that your anxiety will win out and you will feel defeated but don’t give up. Get yourself back up and face the next day, the next situation. You’re always going to think and wonder and that panic will always be there. You just have to learn how to manage it and how to regain control over yourself and your mind.
So while you are sitting there at 2 am wondering all the things that could go wrong in your new relationship or thinking about all the what ifs; start thinking about what is going on now and the good. Try to regain control again and silence that panic of the unknown and the questioning. Remember all the things you already know because the more you think about it the more you are going to create. The more you create, the more panic you are going to feel then that is win your anxiety is going to win out. Do not let it have that power over you. Remind yourself that you are in control and are always in control.